Badly Behaved Mother-In-Law Rates Granddaughter's Piano Recitals, Mom Wants Her Gone

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    Font - Posted by u/vertical-shift-1967 14 hours ago 24 5 3 5 AITA: For telling my husband to stop inviting his mom to our daughter's performances? Situation is pretty...fruatrating to say the least. But let's start with some context. So, My husband and I have a 13 year/old daughter. She plays piano and has participated in several plays in and outside of school. Now here's the thing, my husband invites his mom to every performance our daughter has. not saying he shouldn't - BUT many times she'd p
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    Font - Our daughter had a performance this past wednesday, I told my husband that his mom can sit this one out BUT he said it was too late because he sent her a link of the date and location of the event. I sighed and said nothing.
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    Font - His mom arrived like - 20 minutes later, sat next to him and kept pulling him close while whispering in his ear. I just rolled my eyes, hard. Once the play was over and after we got a chance to see our daughter who looked nervous and shaking - mother in law looked at her and said "let me just say that today's performance was disappointing". my daughter was in shock and I was floored completely. My daughter started crying then rushed away. Mother in law then casually said "oh I have to go
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    Font - ΑΙΤΑ? ETA:: [ since this took off and people are asking more questions I'd like to add some context in bulletpoint form] [1] My mother in law and I don't talk due to past disagreements. [2] Mother in law is "uncomfortable" with the concept of playing piano, and thinks that my daughter is wasting time and getting distracted with zero benefits since she and my husband want her to become a doctor (my daughter doesn't wanna be a doctor but that's an argument for another time). [3] Mother in l
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    Product - wendypeffercor & 54 More nisa10 Next time you & your husband are intimate, roll over afterwards and say "let me just say that tonight's performance was disappointing" and see how he likes that "constructive criticism". NTA 39.2k Reply Share •.. vertical-shift-1967 OP · hahaha This is halirious! I'd say that he'd flip out and raise hell over a slight hint of criticizm. especially when it comes to intimacy - though he has no issues dishing it out 16.3k Reply Share •.. 5 BrunetteMom ent S
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    Font - ago 2 2 4 McflyThrowaw & 8 More Asshole Enthusiast [8] ago Remove your husband from receiving the Information on your daughter's activities. He is the same as his mother. He doesn't see anything wrong because that was how he was raised, and I'm willing to bet her other granddaughter she was going to see is the daughter of your husband's golden child sibling Next time your husband does anything, I mean put a dish in the sink, goes into the bathroom, gets out of the car, tell him each time
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    Font - Little_Grogu · 12 hr. ago NTA.. I would really consider a divorce from this man, he clearly is a bad husband and even worse father. Do whatever you can to get her away from both of them, because it isn't going to get any better. 4.8k Reply Share •.. vertical-shift-1967 OP · 11 hr. ago Okay so here's his argument - He thinks that his mom is the "tell it how it it and don't sugar coat it" type. And he also thinks that our daughter is old enough to be "criticized" and no longer needs to be "
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    Font - lady_k_77 · 11 hr. ago Partassipant [2] Here is what you need to remember. She raised him. She likely did this to him as well, and as of now he believes this is normal/ok. If he actually thinks about it he will realize he was abused, and is now allowing it to happen to his child. He doesn't want to believe that how his mom reacts/speaks/"criticizes" is wrong. BUT, that doesn't mean you have to keep allowing the abuse to happen. You have to stand up for your He needs therapy/counselling to
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    Font - Tim-oBedlam · 11 hr. ago NTA. Here's a tip: if you give someone criticism and they run away crying, it's not freaking constructive criticism. I'm so sorry about your daughter. See if you can get other adults to praise her to build her self-esteem back up. Your MIL is cruel, and your husband is a jerk for siding with his mother over his own daughter. 3.9k 3 Reply Share •.. Ok-Cheetah-9125 · 11 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [18] Husband has probably convinced himself it's a sign of his mom's l
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